Experience, Strength and Hope

As a professional journalist, the last thing I thought I’d blog about was troubled relationships … that is until I confronted my own. Unlike other challenging moments in life, this was a [ Read More ... ]

Cover Your Assets: Dating Pre-Nups

Dating after a divorce or a bad breakup, consider a dating pre-nuptial. I was kidding with friends over dinner recently that I wanted a “pre-nup” for dating so there would be no [ Read More ... ]

The Ex-spouse Is the Extended Family

TDR: What’s the best way for the new spouses to handle ex-spouse relationships? Leman: What’s in vogue today, especially with young children, is that kids bounce back and forth from home to [ Read More ... ]

The Hunt for Soulmates

It amazes me that no matter how much we’ve been beaten down after a horrendous split, we’re looking for our soulmates, yet again. I don’t know what this says about our evolution. [ Read More ... ]

Get Ready for the Ex-spouse’s Grenades

TDR: Where does the ex-spouse fit into the picture?  Leman:  The ex-spouse can lob a grenade into your home with a simple phone call or email. Now you can see why the [ Read More ... ]

The Five-Year Battle Over Kitty

What is it about divorce that taps into a reservoir of anger and self-destruction? I posed this question to my friend Ada Marie, a “seer” and life coach. Ada, who has worked [ Read More ... ]

Stop Siding With Your Kids in the New Marriage

TDR: When do the new husband and wife start to try to blend the families? Leman: Put yourself in the kid’s shoes for awhile. Here’s another kid you’ve never laid eyes on, [ Read More ... ]

A Good Karma Breakup?

Every so often a well-meaning friend gets me so nuts over my breakup that it takes every cell in my body to get back to a “good karma” mindset. That said, a divorce judge’s book about “good [ Read More ... ]

Kids: The Enemy to New Families

TDR: What are the typical beliefs and misconceptions when two people with separate families from previous marriages fall in love? Leman: A lot of people fall into the “tinglies.” I’m not even [ Read More ... ]

Who Really Benefits in No-Fault Divorce?

New York, the only U.S. state that doesn’t allow no-fault divorces, is expected to pass this new law. But the change would make it easier for a wealthier spouse to end a [ Read More ... ]

Give Me Meds, Now!

I am an escape artist and I will do so by any means. In the past, it was drugs and booze and now it’s just excessive work and just overall insanity. There’s [ Read More ... ]